manners

Dear Mary: is it OK to drop by to see a friend’s garden during the pandemic?

6 June 2020 9:00 am

Q. I own a small, somewhat shabby and antiquated but well-located flat in central London which I have been happy…

Dear Mary: What is the etiquette about watching graphic sex scenes as a family?

30 May 2020 9:00 am

Q. Please can you tell me the correct etiquette about signing the visitors book after you are married? Obviously you…

Dear Mary: Why don’t my neighbours appreciate my 8 p.m. Thursday firework?

16 May 2020 9:00 am

Q. For me the hallmark of a really close friend is someone with whom you feel comfortable enough to bring…

Dear Mary: What do I say to the neighbour who comments on my daily exercise?

9 May 2020 9:00 am

Q To your correspondent with a guest whose table manners offend (2 May), you suggest screening him off with a…

Dear Mary: How do I handle my lockdown guest’s lack of table manners?

2 May 2020 9:00 am

Q. I am being driven to distraction by a touchy relation who has responded to the lockdown by WhatsApping me…

‘Social distance shaming’ is getting nasty

2 May 2020 9:00 am

Rudeness is spreading like a virus

Dear Mary: How do I get out of bossy chain emails?

18 April 2020 9:00 am

Q. Each day while working from home, I have at least one hour-long meeting via Zoom. One of my colleagues…

Dear Mary: How can I self-isolate without people bothering me on Zoom?

11 April 2020 9:00 am

Q. Caught in Switzerland as the ski resort shut down around my ears, and feeling like a walking health hazard,…

Dear Mary: How can I stop my family scoffing our coronavirus chocolate stockpile?

14 March 2020 9:00 am

Q. How can I stop a member of the household from glutting out on the chocolate supply I have stockpiled?…

Dear Mary: Should I return my pod coffee maker on moral grounds?

29 February 2020 9:00 am

Q. I adore doing jigsaws and these days there’s an added bonus — by posting my progress on Instagram I…

Dear Mary: As an actor, how do I cope with strangers who think they know me?

7 February 2020 10:00 pm

Q. I have hired a private room in a restaurant in order to give dinner to a large number of…

Dear Mary: How can I stop my mother-in-law sitting on newspaper whenever she comes to my house?

24 January 2020 10:00 pm

Q. When my mother-in-law visits, she puts newspaper on a dining chair before sitting down. I’m so speechless that someone…

Dear Mary: How can I stop other diners eating my chips?

18 January 2020 9:00 am

Q. My husband and I are committed Brexiteers. For many years we have regularly enjoyed friendly bridge evenings with a…

Dear Mary, from Joan Collins: How do I stop fans asking for selfies in the powder room?

21 December 2019 9:00 am

From Dame Joan CollinsQ. Invariably, when I escape to the ladies’ room or powder room or restroom (whatever the current…

Dear Mary: What can we do about our son’s girlfriend’s appalling table manners?

14 December 2019 9:00 am

Q. My son has a girlfriend who we like but who has appalling table manners. They come to stay most…

Dear Mary: How do I stop getting lumbered with the washing up on weekends away?

30 November 2019 9:00 am

Q. A friend, who is very careful with his money, occasionally invites a group of six to eight out to…

Dear Mary: Is my brother being gaslighted by his boss?

2 November 2019 9:00 am

Q. My brilliant brother, who graduated last year, could find nowhere to live in London so we were all delighted…

Dear Mary: How can I stop my neighbour making weird noises when he exercises in the garden?

19 October 2019 9:00 am

Q. I sing soprano in a small church choir, ten to 12 singers. The woman I am placed next to…

Dear Mary: How can I tell a man at yoga class to cover up?

12 October 2019 9:00 am

Q. My sister runs a yoga school and a middle-aged gentleman has joined. Although she is delighted to encourage male…

Dear Mary: How do I cope with university flatmates who can’t cook?

5 October 2019 9:00 am

Q. For many years I employed around 60 people with whom I worked in an open-plan office. I moved on from…

Wind chimes

Dear Mary: What can I do about the vexatious racket of windchimes?

3 August 2019 9:00 am

Q. I took an old friend to Bellamy’s for lunch. We were just settling in for a proper gossip when…

Dear Mary: How do I stop men sending me articles from the Guardian?

13 July 2019 9:00 am

Q. It is difficult to know what to do when homeless people ask you for cash as you are leaving…

Dear Mary: How should I deal with a friend who leaves appalling comments on Facebook?

6 July 2019 9:00 am

Q. Friends and I keep in touch and share our more memorable experiences on Facebook. One friend is an elderly…

Dear Mary: How do I handle the dreaded ‘B word’ at supper parties?

29 June 2019 9:00 am

Q. I have lost many friends and acquaintances by discussing Brexit and finding fundamental differences of opinion. Recently I have…

Dear Mary: How can I stop the book club gossip from snooping around my house?

22 June 2019 9:00 am

Q. One of the members of our book club is particularly nosy and gossipy. I like this woman, but when…