Etiquette
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Q. How can I avoid becoming seen as an ‘Instagram creeper’? My well-meaning niece tells me that I’m in danger…
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Q. My partner and I recently had two close friends — one a Peer, the other a former Member of the…
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Q. Some rather flashy new neighbours of ours — I won’t mention their names as his will be familiar to…
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Q. I am in my seventies and my husband is in his nineties. The other night we had two couples…
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Q. I’m shortly to host a very large family gathering. Everyone will be related to the same ancestor, so we…
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Our family holiday snaps used to be slides. We’d gather in the sitting room while Dad clicked through each one.…
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Q. Is there an etiquette regarding security gates? My wife and I were invited to dinner by new neighbours who…
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Q. ‘Alfred’ is a friend of 30 years’ standing who has just married for the first time. Alfred retains all…
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Q. We moved recently and new neighbours invited us to join them for dinner at a nearby restaurant. I planned…
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Q. What is the etiquette regarding asking to drink the wine you have brought to a dinner party? The man…
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Q. My super successful son kindly gave a birthday dinner party for me in a glamorous London club. I have never…
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The language that President Barack Obama used was evidence of skulduggery, Nigel Farage declared. ‘The UK is gonna be in…
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Q. A friend of mine’s husband is in his nineties. They are a delightful couple but the husband has started…
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Q. What should a host do when a guest says something so embarrassing in front of the assembled company that…
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Q. Twice recently our host has clinked his glass, required us to stop relaxing and instead take part in a…
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Q. My niece, who came to stay with me in the country for the weekend, arrived without cash and asked…
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Q. I recently rediscovered a wonderful 22-year-old godson. He came to shoot for the first time and was a marvellous…
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Q. My husband-to-be and I both work full time. We are getting married from his family HQ and his kind…
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Q. For the past two New Year’s Eves we have ducked an annual party given by some acquaintances, who are…
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Q. Although I have met most of the fellow occupants of my building at residents’ meetings, we don’t socialise. However…
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Q. I work in the London art market. Often, when I run into a fellow dealer and ask how they…
The secret brilliance of Prince Philip’s ‘gaffes’
I’ve just been on the receiving end of a Prince Philip gaffe, of sorts, and I loved it. It was…
Dear Mary: I always end up subsidising my greedy friend’s lunch
Q. I have lunch once a month with an old university friend. Over the years we have both thickened out…
Dear Mary: How can I greet friends without clashing specs?
Q. As an old trout, large in height and breadth, I have taken a leaf out of the documentary Advanced…
