Etiquette

Dear Mary: Help! My teeth are too white

20 July 2024 9:00 am

Q. I ride a bike from Chiswick to the City each morning. It is a ten-mile journey that takes 45…

Dear Mary: is it rude to listen to sport at a wedding?

13 July 2024 9:00 am

Q. We live in the countryside, where the door is always open. Last week when it was sunny we had…

Dear Mary: can you leave a party without saying goodbye?

6 July 2024 9:00 am

Q. Often at parties strangers bear down on me looking excited and are then offended when I don’t recognise them.…

Dear Mary: how to rumble a snooper

29 June 2024 9:00 am

Q. I like and get on well with my sister-in-law. My problem is that she is incredibly nosy and I…

Dear Mary: how can I safeguard my feminist principles at dinner?

22 June 2024 9:00 am

Q. My husband and I will shortly be having some South American friends to stay. They come most years and…

Dear Mary: how do I dodge a party to avoid an undesirable guest?

8 June 2024 9:00 am

Q. I am on a long, jam-packed and much disrupted train journey to Scotland. In the carriage someone is working…

Dear Mary: how do I stop my book club banging on about their grandchildren?

1 June 2024 9:00 am

Q. At the Ludlow Piano Festival, during a Tyler Hay concert, my husband and I spotted a fascinating-looking couple who…

Dear Mary: how do I stop our cousins’ dog peeing on the curtains?

25 May 2024 9:00 am

Q. I have a friend whom I see quite often who keeps asking me if I will ‘get her invited’ for…

Dear Mary: how should I thank a friend for dead flowers?

18 May 2024 9:00 am

Q. I left fashion school last year and since then I’ve spent most of my time applying for jobs and…

Dear Mary: how can I help pay for an expensive lunch without seeming rude?

4 May 2024 9:00 am

Q. My husband and I (both in our eighties) recently visited a carpet shop with a view to replacing the…

Dear Mary: how can I get restaurants to turn off loud music?

27 April 2024 9:00 am

Q. My husband never wants to go out to lunch on a day when he could be gardening but he…

Dear Mary: How do I choose who to sponsor for the London Marathon?

20 April 2024 9:00 am

Q. For the past couple of years, many of my sons’ friends have been gamely running the London Marathon for…

Dear Mary: should I encourage guests to strip their beds?

13 April 2024 9:00 am

Q. Our son, 17, who is generally a credit to us, has started eating with his mouth open. It’s the…

Dear Mary: how can I unmask anonymous marathon sponsors?

6 April 2024 9:00 am

Q. My son-in-law is running the Paris marathon to raise money for cystic fibrosis research and has sent out a…

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23 September 2023 9:00 am

Q. Scrolling through my WhatsApp contacts, I have found a name I don’t recognise but when I click on the…

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9 September 2023 9:00 am

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2 September 2023 9:00 am