Help! I’m on a dating blacklist

4 November 2023 9:00 am

There’s a online blacklist of men you should avoid dating and I’m on it. I discovered this over the summer…

I’ve turned 60 – but all is not lost

21 October 2023 9:00 am

By the time you read this I’ll be 60, having passed that milestone on Tuesday. My older friends tell me…

Could I find a girlfriend on a Guardian Blind Date?

30 September 2023 9:00 am

Was a Guardian Blind Date the answer?

Dear Mary

2 September 2023 9:00 am

Can this dating gimmick help me find love?

19 August 2023 9:00 am

Could a new gimmick help me find love?

If you like First Dates, you'll love This is Dating

26 February 2022 9:00 am

The tagline of This is Dating, a new podcast from across the pond, is ‘Come for the cringe, stay for…

Why can't men write about sex?

27 September 2021 9:04 pm

Not long ago I was a regular Tinder user. Having heard that gingers were romantically incompatible, I decided to mix…

The rise of vaccine virtue-signalling

25 May 2021 3:00 pm

I’ve bemoaned the ‘no Tories please’ line on dating profiles many a time. Closed-minded and over-used, it’s a banal way…

Dear Mary: How do I cope with cooking for food snobs?

14 November 2020 9:00 am

Q. I have a delightful young goddaughter who, thanks to the virus, I have not seen since last year. Her…

I’ve started a dating site for lockdown sceptics

15 August 2020 9:00 am

I started a dating site last Sunday. Not words I ever thought I’d write, but I’ve become a kind of…

How Covid has changed the dating game

25 July 2020 9:00 am

Covid has changed the dating game

Pity poor Candace Bushnell, still flogging Sex and the City at 60

17 August 2019 9:00 am

On paper, Candace Bushnell and the medieval warlord El Cid don’t have a lot in common. The first made a…

A woman advertises for a partner for her child in Shanghai’s People’s Park

Would your son marry me? Inside Shanghai’s marriage market

9 March 2019 9:00 am

 Shanghai ‘How old are you, young lady?’ A small, curious crowd starts to surround me. ‘How tall are you? What…

Dear Mary: How can I face the friends who warned me that my girlfriend would dump me?

3 November 2018 9:00 am

Q. Previously a long-term and content single man, earlier in the year I began a relationship with a wonderful girl,…

Dear Mary: My new boyfriend is too short. Can I make him wear shoe lifts?

28 April 2018 9:00 am

Q. An acquaintance, whom I admire but don’t know well, sent me a ‘begging’ letter to donate to a charity…

Joan Collins: Want to know why all the Oscar films are boring? I’ll tell you

10 February 2018 9:00 am

I’ve been meaning to write a Spectator diary since the summer but as a Gemini with Aries rising I find…

US film producer Harvey Weinstein (Photo: Getty)

Dangerous liaisons

21 October 2017 9:00 am

Lothario, Don Juan, philanderer, ‘naughty’, ‘plays away’ — all terms for men who have an overwhelming drive to seduce scores…

One night in the backwoods

4 June 2016 9:00 am

The man I met in the moose-hunters' bar, and what happened between us

How the 'dating apocalypse' led me to vajazzle my armpits

28 May 2016 9:00 am

Why I went looking for love in the armpits of strange men

Dear Mary: help me to engineer a date with this charming army officer

19 March 2016 9:00 am

Q. I have a deep crush on an army officer I’ve met through work. He is decisive, practical and doesn’t…

The sad decline of the teenage snog

27 February 2016 9:00 am

Sometimes I sit my nieces down and treat them to tales of dating in the dark ages, before iPhones arrived…

Erica Jong's middle-aged dread

28 November 2015 9:00 am

Who’d get old? Bits fall off, your loved ones start dropping like flies and, perhaps worst of all, the only…

I wouldn't want to be a girl in the age of Tinder

14 February 2015 9:00 am

Romance is being killed off by the brutal marketplace of dating apps such as Tinder

Dear Mary: What can I do about my neighbours’ downmarket recycling?

3 January 2015 9:00 am

Q. Since recycling was introduced in our village, the wall at the end of our drive has become the depositing…

Dear Mary solves problems for Jim Broadbent, N.M. Gwynne, Jesse Norman and others

13 December 2014 9:00 am

Once again Mary has invited some of her favourite figures in the public eye to submit personal queries for her…