Dating

Pity poor Candace Bushnell, still flogging Sex and the City at 60

17 August 2019 9:00 am

On paper, Candace Bushnell and the medieval warlord El Cid don’t have a lot in common. The first made a…

A woman advertises for a partner for her child in Shanghai’s People’s Park

Would your son marry me? Inside Shanghai’s marriage market

9 March 2019 9:00 am

 Shanghai ‘How old are you, young lady?’ A small, curious crowd starts to surround me. ‘How tall are you? What…

Dear Mary: How can I face the friends who warned me that my girlfriend would dump me?

3 November 2018 9:00 am

Q. Previously a long-term and content single man, earlier in the year I began a relationship with a wonderful girl,…

Dear Mary: My new boyfriend is too short. Can I make him wear shoe lifts?

28 April 2018 9:00 am

Q. An acquaintance, whom I admire but don’t know well, sent me a ‘begging’ letter to donate to a charity…

Joan Collins: Want to know why all the Oscar films are boring? I’ll tell you

10 February 2018 9:00 am

I’ve been meaning to write a Spectator diary since the summer but as a Gemini with Aries rising I find…

US film producer Harvey Weinstein (Photo: Getty)

Dangerous liaisons

21 October 2017 9:00 am

Lothario, Don Juan, philanderer, ‘naughty’, ‘plays away’ — all terms for men who have an overwhelming drive to seduce scores…

One night in the backwoods

4 June 2016 9:00 am

When I was 38, I let a drunk pick me up in a bar. You know, just to see if…

How the 'dating apocalypse' led me to vajazzle my armpits

28 May 2016 9:00 am

I am crouching with a tall paper bag over my head, with holes cut out for eyes, nose and mouth,…

Dear Mary: help me to engineer a date with this charming army officer

19 March 2016 9:00 am

Q. I have a deep crush on an army officer I’ve met through work. He is decisive, practical and doesn’t…

The sad decline of the teenage snog

27 February 2016 9:00 am

Sometimes I sit my nieces down and treat them to tales of dating in the dark ages, before iPhones arrived…

Erica Jong's middle-aged dread

28 November 2015 9:00 am

Who’d get old? Bits fall off, your loved ones start dropping like flies and, perhaps worst of all, the only…

I wouldn't want to be a girl in the age of Tinder

14 February 2015 9:00 am

My foray into the world of online dating was short-lived. Within a few hours of my profile going live, a…

Dear Mary: What can I do about my neighbours’ downmarket recycling?

3 January 2015 9:00 am

Q. Since recycling was introduced in our village, the wall at the end of our drive has become the depositing…

Dear Mary solves problems for Jim Broadbent, N.M. Gwynne, Jesse Norman and others

13 December 2014 9:00 am

Once again Mary has invited some of her favourite figures in the public eye to submit personal queries for her…

Revealed: the marriage gap between Britain's rich and poor

15 November 2014 9:00 am

In the digital era, those looking for soulmates can be brutally clear about who need not apply. There are websites…

A novel that will make you want to call social services

23 August 2014 9:00 am

Nina Stibbe has a way with children. Her first book, a memoir, was a deceptively wide-eyed view of a literary…