Dear Mary: Your problems solved
Q. There has been a marked increase in the number of people who have pristine flooring and are so keen…
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Q. Success has come to me in later life with an unfortunate side effect. Since my career has taken off,…
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Q. What is the correct thing to say to a writer friend whose book you haven’t read? I buy most…
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Q. My future son-in-law has been successfully house-trained in the use of upper-middle-class English over the years that he has…
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Q. I am organising my 21st birthday party at our family house in Italy. It is a fantastic location, but…
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Q. What can you do when disorganised friends say they would love to come to a concert with you but…
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Q. We have moved to the country and my husband often prefers me to drive — not because he wants to…
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Q. I have been trying to get an apprenticeship in fashion for over a year without success. I just had…
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Q. What is the etiquette on tipping in London houses? I have been in the habit of staying with friends…
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Q. The Idler Academy is within walking distance of my house and I note from the programme of autumn events…
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Q. I graduated this year (I got a first) and have written more than 70 letters to potential employers. Those…
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Q. My problem is that an older friend, with whom I enjoy lengthy telephone chats, becomes furious when my call…
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Q. In his Spectator notebook of 30 August, describing a recent gaudy at the Oxford college he attended in the…
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Q. When someone gives you anti-ageing cream as a present, is that an insult or a compliment? — A.O., Provence…
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Q. My neighbour is really lovely and always helps me chainsaw trees. He used to be the herdsman at the…
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Q. We have taken a flat in Edinburgh for a month and a young girl, temporarily homeless and a friend…
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Q. A scholarly book of great importance to me appears to have gone missing from my library. It was heavily…
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Q. At a drinks or a dinner party, when very attentive waiters are hovering, I tend to let them keep…
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Q. I live far away from my brother and his family, but went to stay with them recently for the…
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Q. My former cleaner has now retired and lives nearby. I visit her with clockwork regularity and always enjoy seeing…
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Q. We have recently returned from Provence where we stayed the first night with distant relatives. We woke on a…
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Q. My 16-year-old son, who has recently had his first experiences of Clubland, has observed to me, his mother, that…
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Q. How, in a party context, can one avoid answering what used to be called ‘nosey’ questions without being rude?…
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Q. I agreed to give (paid) gap-year work experience in my own large garden to the grandson of an extremely…
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Q. I am the co-owner of a chocolate business which regularly receives requests for donations of goody bags and raffle…
