Help! I’m on a dating blacklist

4 November 2023 9:00 am

There’s a online blacklist of men you should avoid dating and I’m on it. I discovered this over the summer…

Life with Low Life: my happy years with Jeremy Clarke

8 July 2023 9:00 am

Jeremy Clarke’s wife on their happy years together

The ancient art of love spells

25 June 2022 9:00 am

An Oxford don has raised the prospect of producing a cocktail of hormone pills that would help you to fall…

Dear Mary: Must I call my new partner my ‘boyfriend’ when we’re in our seventies?

25 June 2022 9:00 am

Q. My girlfriend and I have started using a personal trainer for some joint sessions at our local gym; the…

Brought me to tears: Tortoise Media's Sweet Bobby podcast reviewed

11 December 2021 9:00 am

Eleven years ago, Kirat Assi received a message on Facebook from a man named Bobby. There was a family connection…

Reassess every relationship you’ve ever had before it’s too late

16 October 2021 9:00 am

‘Reading is a celebration of the mystery of ourselves,’ according to Elizabeth Strout, who writes to help readers understand themselves…

Why do some women find killers irresistible?

25 September 2021 9:00 am

Why do some women find killers irresistible?

A podcast that will rescue your relationship: Where Should We Begin? reviewed

11 September 2021 9:00 am

Let me give you a free piece of relationship advice: just break up. If it’s more work than pleasure, if…

For lovers who live apart, it’s been a long year

27 February 2021 9:00 am

When will it be legal to hug my girlfriend again?

What’s happened to all the lesbians?

13 February 2021 9:00 am

Where have all the lesbians gone?

Dear Mary: How can we set up our single friends in lockdown?

16 January 2021 9:00 am

Q. My husband and I have two single friends who we believe should be introduced. In days gone by, we…

Do divorces really increase after Christmas?

19 December 2020 9:00 am

Now and then Were households allowed to mix at Christmas during the plague? Samuel Pepys’s diary entry for 25 December…

I’ve started a dating site for lockdown sceptics

15 August 2020 9:00 am

I started a dating site last Sunday. Not words I ever thought I’d write, but I’ve become a kind of…

How Covid has changed the dating game

25 July 2020 9:00 am

Covid has changed the dating game

The antibody test that proved my wife wrong

20 June 2020 9:00 am

Back in April, The Spectator ran a feature in which the partners of regular contributors wrote about what it was…

Why is it that age limits never apply to men?

6 June 2020 9:00 am

I’d never have thought I’d be good at doing nothing. Or rather walking the dogs, loafing in the sun, trying…

Coromance is blossoming

23 May 2020 9:00 am

Being stuck at home will make our relationships stronger

Did anyone really believe what my wife wrote about me?

2 May 2020 9:00 am

One of the nice things about having a column in The Spectator is that I get a chance to reply…

Why do we write dedications in books?

28 September 2019 9:00 am

When my siblings and I were clearing out my dad’s bookshelves (he died earlier this year), I made sure to…

Dating apps are full of ‘woke’ profiles – no wonder we’re no longer having sex

9 February 2019 9:00 am

I interviewed a prominent 1970s women’s liberationist recently and ended up discussing the sexual culture of her political heyday. ‘Everyone…

Sally Rooney. Credit: Jonny L. Davies

A friendship in flux: Normal People, by Sally Rooney, reviewed

15 September 2018 9:00 am

‘Marianne had the sense that her real life was happening somewhere very far away, happening without her, and she didn’t…

John Ruskin as a boy, seated beside his mother, listening to the sermon

Every day is mother’s day for writers: most have strong feelings about their mothers, though not always of love

10 March 2018 9:00 am

You attempt to write a review with a stiff dose of objectivity, but it’s hard not to start with a…

Letters: Looking for love? Just follow these three simple rules

11 November 2017 9:00 am

Rules for romance Sir: Lara Prendergast describes a floundering generation desperate for reliable love but with no real idea how…

Trainwreck wastes Amy Schumer’s talents

15 August 2015 9:00 am

Trainwreck is a romcom as written and directed by Amy Schumer, the American comedy prodigy whose Comedy Central sketch show…

The rise of ‘living apart together’ – and why I’ve stopped doing it

17 January 2015 9:00 am

The rise of ‘living apart together’ – and why I’ve stopped doing it