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Q. I have a friend with multiple sclerosis. She lives alone in the countryside. There is no bus service and,…
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Q. The woman who lives above me has insomnia and walks around all night. I’m also disturbed by her rather…
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Q. My husband — currently unemployed — has started ‘sourcing’ logs from our own smallholding. Chopping down perfectly good trees, sawing logs,…
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Q. A neighbour is hosting a party for his daughter’s 21st birthday. Adequate provision has been made for anyone who…
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Q. After a recent dinner I found myself on a two-seater sofa enjoying the restful company of a woman who…
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Q. We enjoyed the Christmas University Challenge series featuring mature graduates, some of whom were more in the public eye than…
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Q. Since recycling was introduced in our village, the wall at the end of our drive has become the depositing…
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Once again Mary has invited some of her favourite figures in the public eye to submit personal queries for her…
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Q. My husband employs an ageing rocker in his shop. She is highly efficient, and is an extremely nice woman.…
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Q. There has been a marked increase in the number of people who have pristine flooring and are so keen…
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Q. Success has come to me in later life with an unfortunate side effect. Since my career has taken off,…
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Q. What is the correct thing to say to a writer friend whose book you haven’t read? I buy most…
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Q. My future son-in-law has been successfully house-trained in the use of upper-middle-class English over the years that he has…
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Q. I am organising my 21st birthday party at our family house in Italy. It is a fantastic location, but…
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Q. What can you do when disorganised friends say they would love to come to a concert with you but…
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Q. We have moved to the country and my husband often prefers me to drive — not because he wants to…
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Q. I have been trying to get an apprenticeship in fashion for over a year without success. I just had…
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Q. What is the etiquette on tipping in London houses? I have been in the habit of staying with friends…
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Q. The Idler Academy is within walking distance of my house and I note from the programme of autumn events…
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Q. I graduated this year (I got a first) and have written more than 70 letters to potential employers. Those…
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Q. My problem is that an older friend, with whom I enjoy lengthy telephone chats, becomes furious when my call…
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Q. In his Spectator notebook of 30 August, describing a recent gaudy at the Oxford college he attended in the…
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Q. When someone gives you anti-ageing cream as a present, is that an insult or a compliment? — A.O., Provence…
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Q. My neighbour is really lovely and always helps me chainsaw trees. He used to be the herdsman at the…
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Q. We have taken a flat in Edinburgh for a month and a young girl, temporarily homeless and a friend…












