Q. I am 26 and my problem is that I have four girlfriends. None of them knows about the other three. The background is that my previous girlfriend told me constantly how awful I am. Now that I have found four other girls, all of whom seem to think I am terrific, I am loath to give up any of them while my self-esteem is recovering. I have had about three or four dates with each one and I know I’m getting into deeper water each week. What would you recommend?

– Name and address withheld

A. It’s all very well for you to be rebuilding your self-esteem but there’s an unsavoury Hugh Hefner, dehumanising vibe about juggling four love interests. There may be some ‘natural wastage’ in time but you should draw a line under this experiment asap, before too much fondness has been incubated. The best judge of which girl would be best for you would be your mother. Arrange a series of casual introductions. She will know instinctively which candidate is most compatible long-term.

Q. Our children love our fabulous nanny, who’s been with us for six years. During that time she’s slowly and steadily become fatter and fatter. She obviously knows that the jabs exist, and she would definitely qualify for NHS help, but it is probably illegal for us to suggest it. Our (realistic) worry is that she’s now so heavy she’s quite likely to cause some structural damage when taking the children to their friends’ houses. One in particular has some very fancy and delicate chairs, which she would reduce to splinters were she to sit down. Help, Mary!

– Name and address withheld

A. It is worth reading your household insurance policy in detail. Some policies cover members of the household for accidental damage they cause when visiting other people’s houses. If yours does not include this coverage, the supplementary financial charge to put it in place is usually nugatory. You can then relax knowing that your own insurance will cover breakages.

Q. May I pass a tip to your readers? I don’t need spectacles, but, like many people, I have one ear slightly lower than the other and this has always caused my sunglasses to look crooked. I’ve discovered that there are silicone ‘sleeve retainers’ which clip onto one of the arms to balance things out. They can be bought from the dreaded Amazon at £3.99 for four pairs under the brand name Cretty-Meet.

– H.S., Hillsborough, Co. Down

A. How considerate of you to share this tip at a time when most of us are wearing sunglasses. Incidentally, these sleeve retainers are also useful for stabilising ordinary glasses which have become too loose.