How I'd write your perfect speech

12 February 2022 9:00 am

The secretive art of speechwriting

Letters: In defence of the National Trust

12 June 2021 9:00 am

Trust us Sir: I refute Charles Moore’s assertions (‘Broken Trust’, 5 June) that the National Trust frowns on local expertise,…

Why do my American friends keep asking me to marry them?

12 June 2021 9:00 am

My diary has been filled with dental appointments, reflecting a truism that American dentists pray for British teeth. The tally…

What does your wedding reading say about you?

5 June 2021 9:00 am

The pitfalls of choosing a wedding reading

Dear Mary: What is the etiquette around gifts for virtual weddings?

22 May 2021 9:00 am

Q. We have been invited to a virtual wedding. Is it correct form to send a present?— P.F., Barrow Street,…

Cressida Bonas: My perfectly imperfect lockdown wedding

19 December 2020 9:00 am

I had a lockdown wedding. A 30-person, socially-distanced, sanitised church service was organised in under two weeks. Restrictions meant no…

Dear Mary: We’ve had to downsize our wedding – can we still ask everyone for presents?

17 October 2020 9:00 am

Q. A year ago we sent out 150 save-the-date notices for our wedding this December. We are still going ahead,…

Letters: why do we put up with bats?

22 August 2020 9:00 am

Scottish hearts and heads Sir: Alex Massie ignores the evidence when he espouses the assumption that economic concerns no longer…

The dismal rise of the modern elopement

15 August 2020 9:00 am

I didn’t realise how attached I was to the traditional British wedding — the whole messy, pricey, drunken business —…

Dear Mary: Where should we seat wedding guests who hold unfashionable views?

25 July 2020 9:00 am

Q. Our daughter is going ahead with her wedding despite the restriction on guest numbers. Although it is a relief…

Dear Mary: How can I leave a boring WhatsApp group without upsetting anyone?

11 July 2020 9:00 am

Q. During lockdown I have done my level best to assist with household chores. Last week, while my wife was…

The competitive world of Covid brides

2 May 2020 9:00 am

The competitive world of Covid brides

Dear Mary: How can I foil a notorious place-swapper at my daughter’s wedding?

7 March 2020 9:00 am

Q. I am arranging the seating plan for my daughter’s wedding and have a problem with one of her guests…

Cressida Bonas: Everyone seems to have very strong opinions about my wedding

18 January 2020 9:00 am

White House Farm began last week on ITV; a six-part factual drama about the notorious murders. I play Sheila Caffell,…

Dear Mary: How do I stop my husband eating everything in the fridge?

23 November 2019 9:00 am

Q. A friend of a friend has an apartment in Venice. I would like to commiserate with her about the…

It would be a big mistake to underestimate Corbyn

16 November 2019 9:00 am

Thud. It’s my advance copy of Dorothy Byrne’s new book, Trust Me, I’m Not a Politician, landing on the doormat.…

Dear Mary: Is it OK for a couple to ask us to contribute to their savings as a wedding gift?

28 September 2019 9:00 am

Q. Every three months or so my PA blossoms into a great beauty for a couple of weeks, then has…

Mary solves your problems: A family friend stays over all the time – but never actually asks us out

11 November 2017 9:00 am

Q. We have a family friend we don’t see nearly as much as we’d like. This is because he’s so…

Dear Mary

2 September 2017 9:00 am

Q. Our best friends own a house in Morocco which sleeps about ten. They rent it out but go two…

It’s got to be perfect

22 July 2017 9:00 am

When I order a cup of tea in Costa, the barista says: ‘Perfect!’ I ask for tap water in a…

Dear Mary: What can you do when your new neighbours stiff you on a restaurant bill?

4 June 2016 9:00 am

Q. We moved recently and new neighbours invited us to join them for dinner at a nearby restaurant. I planned…

Your guide to the coming moth invasion

2 April 2016 9:00 am

After this mild winter, you can expect a clothes-ruining epidemic. They’ve already got my best suit

Dear Mary: Must I have name badges for guests at my wedding?

6 February 2016 9:00 am

Q. My husband-to-be and I both work full time. We are getting married from his family HQ and his kind…

Dear Mary: Another way to deal with a maddening blackhead

17 October 2015 8:00 am

Q. Might I suggest an alternative solution to E.B. of London’s problem (3 October) about the person sporting a ‘maddening’…