manners
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Q. During lockdown I have done my level best to assist with household chores. Last week, while my wife was…
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Q. Just before Covid, we moved out of London with the intention of having a quiet life in the country.…
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Q. How can one politely stop predatory kissers? I am (or was) an affectionate and demonstrative person but I don’t…
Manners maketh America
When I moved to New York in 2005 to be the Daily Telegraph’s correspondent, the first thing I was struck…
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Q. I know it is rude to ask, when invited to a dinner party, ‘who else is coming?’ I assumed,…
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Q. Now we are instructed to mingle again, I’m sure I’m not alone in being surprised to find an awkwardness…
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Q. I own a small, somewhat shabby and antiquated but well-located flat in central London which I have been happy…
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Q. Please can you tell me the correct etiquette about signing the visitors book after you are married? Obviously you…
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Q. For me the hallmark of a really close friend is someone with whom you feel comfortable enough to bring…
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Q To your correspondent with a guest whose table manners offend (2 May), you suggest screening him off with a…
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Q. I am being driven to distraction by a touchy relation who has responded to the lockdown by WhatsApping me…
Antisocial distancing
Rudeness is spreading like a virus
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Q. Each day while working from home, I have at least one hour-long meeting via Zoom. One of my colleagues…
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Q. Caught in Switzerland as the ski resort shut down around my ears, and feeling like a walking health hazard,…
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Q. How can I stop a member of the household from glutting out on the chocolate supply I have stockpiled?…
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Q. I adore doing jigsaws and these days there’s an added bonus — by posting my progress on Instagram I…
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Q. I have hired a private room in a restaurant in order to give dinner to a large number of…
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Q. When my mother-in-law visits, she puts newspaper on a dining chair before sitting down. I’m so speechless that someone…
Dear Mary: How can I stop other diners eating my chips?
Q. My husband and I are committed Brexiteers. For many years we have regularly enjoyed friendly bridge evenings with a…
Dear Mary, from Joan Collins: How do I stop fans asking for selfies in the powder room?
From Dame Joan CollinsQ. Invariably, when I escape to the ladies’ room or powder room or restroom (whatever the current…
Dear Mary: What can we do about our son’s girlfriend’s appalling table manners?
Q. My son has a girlfriend who we like but who has appalling table manners. They come to stay most…
Dear Mary: How do I stop getting lumbered with the washing up on weekends away?
Q. A friend, who is very careful with his money, occasionally invites a group of six to eight out to…
Dear Mary: Is my brother being gaslighted by his boss?
Q. My brilliant brother, who graduated last year, could find nowhere to live in London so we were all delighted…
Dear Mary: How can I stop my neighbour making weird noises when he exercises in the garden?
Q. I sing soprano in a small church choir, ten to 12 singers. The woman I am placed next to…
Dear Mary: How can I tell a man at yoga class to cover up?
Q. My sister runs a yoga school and a middle-aged gentleman has joined. Although she is delighted to encourage male…
