Dear Mary

Dear Mary

27 June 2020 9:00 am

Q. How can one politely stop predatory kissers? I am (or was) an affectionate and demonstrative person but I don’t…

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20 June 2020 9:00 am

Q. I know it is rude to ask, when invited to a dinner party, ‘who else is coming?’ I assumed,…

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13 June 2020 9:00 am

Q. Now we are instructed to mingle again, I’m sure I’m not alone in being surprised to find an awkwardness…

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6 June 2020 9:00 am

Q. I own a small, somewhat shabby and antiquated but well-located flat in central London which I have been happy…

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30 May 2020 9:00 am

Q. Please can you tell me the correct etiquette about signing the visitors book after you are married? Obviously you…

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23 May 2020 9:00 am

Q. My goddaughter was getting married in July but due to Covid-19 this has been postponed. I had already chosen…

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16 May 2020 9:00 am

Q. For me the hallmark of a really close friend is someone with whom you feel comfortable enough to bring…

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9 May 2020 9:00 am

Q To your correspondent with a guest whose table manners offend (2 May), you suggest screening him off with a…

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2 May 2020 9:00 am

Q. I am being driven to distraction by a touchy relation who has responded to the lockdown by WhatsApping me…

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25 April 2020 9:00 am

Q. Several of my friends and family members have moved on from dark thoughts concerning 9/11, the Kennedy assassination and…

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18 April 2020 9:00 am

Q. Each day while working from home, I have at least one hour-long meeting via Zoom. One of my colleagues…

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11 April 2020 9:00 am

Q. Caught in Switzerland as the ski resort shut down around my ears, and feeling like a walking health hazard,…

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4 April 2020 9:00 am

Q. Mary, what percentage of cleaners’ normal wages should we pay them when they can’t come in for the foreseeable…

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28 March 2020 9:00 am

Q. Our son and his girlfriend have announced their engagement and we are delighted with his choice. Our problem is…

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21 March 2020 9:00 am

Q. We recently welcomed an 18-year-old au pair into our young family, and I’m pleased that she has settled in…

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14 March 2020 9:00 am

Q. How can I stop a member of the household from glutting out on the chocolate supply I have stockpiled?…

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7 March 2020 9:00 am

Q. I am arranging the seating plan for my daughter’s wedding and have a problem with one of her guests…

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29 February 2020 9:00 am

Q. I adore doing jigsaws and these days there’s an added bonus — by posting my progress on Instagram I…

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21 February 2020 10:00 pm

Q. I see a lot of two of our grandchildren because they live in our London house. We are centrally…

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15 February 2020 9:00 am

Q. I am having a drinks party to celebrate the publication of my latest book. I sent out invitations (to…

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7 February 2020 10:00 pm

Q. I have hired a private room in a restaurant in order to give dinner to a large number of…

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1 February 2020 9:00 am

Q. An elderly cousin gave my husband and me a wedding present of two weeks in his villa in the…

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24 January 2020 10:00 pm

Q. When my mother-in-law visits, she puts newspaper on a dining chair before sitting down. I’m so speechless that someone…

Dear Mary: How can I stop other diners eating my chips?

18 January 2020 9:00 am

Q. My husband and I are committed Brexiteers. For many years we have regularly enjoyed friendly bridge evenings with a…

Dear Mary: How can I hang out with smokers at parties without freezing?

11 January 2020 9:00 am

Q. As a young woman I tend not to wear that much to social events in the evening, but I…